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I'm 3 months pregnant and can't decide to keep baby.
Question: I am 3 months pregnant and have not made a decision
weather to keep this baby or not. My boyfriend of 6.5 years doesn't
seem ready, he has been changing his mind regarding the responsibility
and creating a family every day for the past 1.5 months. I took a break
from him and now need to make a decision myself. I was considering
termination earlier, but two days ago had a very strong feeling,
intuition, that it was a wrong choice for me. I am scared already of
the responsibility. I already have a 9 year old daughter, that I am
raising by myself since she was 3. I really want a family and
definitely want a second child. But I cannot rely that my boyfriend
will grow up and come back to me. For some reason I feel that
everything will work out fine, but I am still scared. I am scared to
take the responsibility to ruin another life, not to be able to give
this new baby a full family. However, I really don't want to terminate
it. I believe that everything in this life happens for a reason. Please
help me
Answer: I suggest that you take the time for regular meditation
now to tune into what is the best decision for you. Use the breath to
quiet your mind and then ask for inner guidance. Don't force it, just
let it come. This is an important time in your life where you must
learn to trust your intuition. The answer will come. I know it. Use the
breath to calm anxiety then tune in.
Best,
Judith
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