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Empathic Illnesses: Do You Absorb Other People’s Symptoms?

 
Judith Orloff - Saturday, January 25, 2014

Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s book,“The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People” (Sounds True, 2017)

Empathic illnesses are those in which you manifest symptoms that are not your own. Many patients have come to me labeled“agoraphobic” with panic disorders, chronic depression, fatigue, pain, or mysterious ailments that respond only partially to medications or psychotherapy. Some were nearly housebound or ill for years. They’d all say, “I dread being in crowds. Other people’s anger, stress, and pain drain me, and I need a lot of alone time to refuel my energy.” When I took a close history of all these patients I found that they were what I call “physical empaths:” people whose bodies are so porous they absorb the symptoms of others. I relate because I am one. Physical empaths do not have the defenses that others have to screen things out. As a psychiatrist, knowing this significantly changed how I treated these patients. My job became teaching them to center and protect themselves, set healthy boundaries, and let go of energy they picked up from others.

To determine if you are a physical empath take the following quiz.

Quiz: Am I a Physical Empath?
Ask yourself:

  • Have I been labeled as overly sensitive or a hypochondriac?
  • Have I ever sat next to someone who seemed nice but suddenly my eyelids got heavy and I felt like taking a nap?
  • Do I feel uneasy, tired, or sick in crowds and avoid them?
  • Do I feel someone else’s anxiety or physical pain in my body?
  • Do I feel exhausted by angry or hostile people?
  • Do I run from doctor to doctor for medical tests, but I’m told “You’re fine.”
  • Am I chronically tired or have many unexplained symptoms
  • Do I frequently feel overwhelmed by the world and want to stay home?
  • If you answered “yes” to 1-3 questions you are at least part empath. Responding yes to 4 to5 questions indicates you have moderate degree of physical empathy. 6 to 7 “yeses” indicate you have a high degree of empathy. Eight yeses indicate you are a full blown empath.

    Discovering that you are a physical empath can be a revelation. Rest assured: You are not crazy. You are not a malingerer or hypochondriac. You are not imagining things, though your doctor might treat you like a nuisance. You are a sensitive person with a gift that you must develop and successfully manage.

    Strategies to Surrender Toxic Energy

    Physical empathy doesn’t have to overwhelm you. Now that I can center myself and refrain from taking on other people’s pain, empathy has made my life more compassionate, insightful, and richer. Here are some secrets to thriving as a physical empath that I’ve learned so that it doesn’t take a toll on my health.

    A Survival Guide for Empaths: 9 Strategies To Stop Absorbing Other People’s Illness and Pain 

  • Evaluate. First, ask yourself: Is this symptom or emotion mine or someone else's? It could be both. If the emotion such as fear or anger is yours, gently confront what's causing it on your own or with professional help. If it’s not yours, try to pinpoint the obvious generator.

  • Move away. When possible, distance yourself by at least twenty feet from the suspected source. See if you feel relief. Don't err on the side of not wanting to offend strangers. In a public place, don't hesitate to change seats if you feel a sense of “dis-ease” imposing on you.

  • Know your vulnerable points. Each of us has a body part that is more vulnerable to absorbing others’ stress. Mine is my gut. Scan your body to determine yours. Is it you neck? Do you get sore throats? Headaches? Bladder infections? At the onset of symptoms in these areas, place your palm there and keep sending loving-kindness to that area to soothe discomfort. For longstanding depression or pain, use this method daily to strengthen yourself. It's comforting and builds a sense of safety and optimism.

  • Surrender to your breath. If you suspect you are picking up someone else’s symptoms, concentrate on your breath for a few minutes. This is centering and connects you to your power.

  • Practice Guerilla Meditation. To counter emotional or physical distress, act fast and meditate for a few minutes. Do this at home, at work, at parties, or conferences. Or, take refuge in the bathroom. If it’s public, close the stall. Meditate there. Calm yourself. Focus on positivity and love.

  • Set healthy limits and boundaries. Control how much time you spend listening to stressful people, and learn to say “no.” Remember, “no” is a complete sentence.

  • Visualize protection around you. Visualize an envelope of white light around your entire body. Or with extremely toxic people, visualize a fierce black jaguar patrolling and protecting your energy field against intruders.

  • Develop X ray vision. The spaces between the vertebrae in your lower back (lumbar spine) are conducive to eliminating pain from the body. It’s helpful to learn to mindfully direct pain out of these spaces by visualizing it leaving your body. Say goodbye to pain as it blends with the giant energy matrix of life!

  • Take a bath or shower. A quick way to dissolve stress is to immerse yourself in water. My bath is my sanctuary after a busy day. It washes away everything from bus exhaust to long hours of air travel to pesky symptoms I have taken on from others. Soaking in natural mineral springs divinely purifies all that ails.
  • Keep practicing these strategies. By protecting yourself and your space, you can create a magical safe bubble around you that nurtures you, while simultaneously driving negative people away. Don’t panic if you occasionally pick up pain or some other nasty symptom. It happens. With strategies I discuss in my book to surrender other people’s symptoms you can have quicker responses to stressful situations. This will make you feel safer, healthier, and your sensitivities can blossom.

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    Judith Orloff, MD is author of The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People, upon which her articles are based. Dr. Orloff is a psychiatrist, an empath, and is on the UCLA Psychiatric Clinical Faculty. She synthesizes the pearls of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality. Dr. Orloff also specializes in treating empaths and highly sensitive people in her private practice. Dr. Orloff’s work has been featured on The Today Show, CNN, the Oprah Magazine and USA Today. She is a New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom, The Power of Surrender, Second Sight, Positive Energy, and Guide to Intuitive Healing. Connect with Judith on  Facebook and  Twitter. To learn more about empaths and her free empath support newsletter as well as Dr. Orloff's books and workshop schedule, visit her website.

    Comments
    Joe Chasko commented on 18-Feb-2014 12:22 PM
    Good advice. Also, you may be a psychic empath, with the ability to feed energy back to "emotional vampires" to their benefit and your cost.

    A psychic healer can guide with tools to shield yourself from these attacks. Another remedy is to continue improve your "vibrational frequency" through therapies or meditation, moving from darker thoughts to lighter ones.

    With the combination of these, I can now attend of funeral, which used to be terrible for me.
    Roni Wise commented on 18-Feb-2014 04:29 PM
    Wow,what an eye opener, I've been told I was empathic, but never wondered why I physically am I'll all the time. I scored an 8, which got me thinking, maybe this is not all my illness, or I am not ill at all. Because I'm a nurse, I am in contact with toxic, I'll and stressed people every day. Finally I went on disability, and stay in my room a lot meditating, avoiding people, places and events, and feel exhausted the day I planned to have an outing, and cancel at the last minute. Thanks for the wonderful information. Although I use a energy crystal blanket at night to protect me , I like the idea of a jaguar roaming my room , or house at night
    Anonymous commented on 18-Feb-2014 04:41 PM
    Deep thanks Judith! This came at exactly the right time.
    Georgina commented on 18-Feb-2014 09:12 PM


    Hi Judith,

    Thank you for your email, I found it very confirming.

    I especially enjoyed the visual picture of the "panther".

    Daily I will be applying these strategies when I feel discomfort and other people intruding into my personal space and mental state.

    Please contintue to send emails.

    Thank you once again for your intuition, knowledge, experience and inspiring world.

    Kind regards,



    Georgina.
    karla malcolm commented on 19-Feb-2014 10:55 AM
    thank you for giving a name to this! When I was growing up I was always sick and school was a tough environment for me- easy academically but tough energetically... Now I am an animal communicator and physical empath- I have learned to use it as a gift and clear it from my body- yay your techniques are terrific! Thanks to you, I love your work. xoxo Karla
    Mary-Anne Wielinga commented on 19-Feb-2014 06:38 PM
    As a young health practitioner occasionally I would come across a patient that would drain me , it would take three days to recover. I found washing my arms and saying a prayer helped. As time has passed I find the cycle of reaction and recovery has shrunk, I rarely feel really sapped after working. Now ( after 13 years) I am becoming like a tuning fork, and bits of peoples bodies will sing out to me as I work, when I have cleared or resolved the problem in them my pain leaves. The physical empath capacity has become a tool. I do have areas of my own body that react more severely, to others, like my hands or heart. I think you can be a empath without reacting so severely as you mentioned above in your list.. I love people. I usually only react to people in my care, my friends or hostile people; perhaps thats the only difference.
    Brilliant insight as usual Judith!
    terry rutherford commented on 02-Mar-2014 10:09 PM
    I was a social worker for 18 years when I got cancer. After chemotherapy I went back to work and developed a series of other illnesses. I finally quit but continue to experience agoraphobia, depression and anxiety. I have tried surrounding myself with light for many years but it doesn't seem to help. Years ago I discovered I was an impath when one day I was all of a sudden feeling anxious for no reason. It was two days before April 15th, tax day. I continue to be challenged with sadness and anxiety. If it wasn't for my husbands understanding and support I do not think I would still be here. I can only do 3 things in a day and then need to come home and lay in bed for an hour. I struggle with hopelessness and do not see an upside to being on this planet. I see a psychologist that keeps me active with yoga and socialization but it feel empty. I don't mean to be so negative but this is my current experience. I will cont. to put one foot in front of the other as long as I can. May you all be blessed. T.
    victoria commented on 22-Apr-2014 04:57 AM
    Thank you, a way to rid of what I pick up or share can sometimes
    be hard to get rid of! A roomate whose knee
    operation pain seemed to always come my way.
    A friend whos symptoms from his weekend
    phone calls ranged from sickness to anus discomfort. Feeling sick just
    begore the cat pukes. Crying when friends
    and family members are upset at the same time when there miles away.
    Knowing when someone's died without being told.
    At last a like minded soul. I love the big black cat, and sickness release from the back.
    Thank you I will work with your methods.
    Lora commented on 13-Jun-2014 02:46 PM
    Growing up, I could sense something in the air that other people could not pick up. I could sense sore throat particles in the air so I always knew that someone was sick near me - later on in life i realised that i was sensitive to many things in the air. When i got to work, i knew my colleague had sore throat and I immediately told her that she had sore throat, she was baffled and shocked. Another person said that if there was a nuclear war, i would be the first person to die. Is there any other people like me?
    Manon commented on 19-Jun-2014 12:07 PM
    I've suffered from pain, sinusitis, arthritis, fatigue, among many other "mysterious" illnesses. This Spring, my dog and myself fell ill and I've had to put a hold on my wellness consultation work.

    After a month, I made a mind map of all the little things that were wrong with me, and put it away. This week, I felt compelled to take it out again. This time, I was guided to write the names of the people close to me--over the illnesses.

    I was astounded to see how many illness I share with people I love. Then I found this blog post! Major ah ha moment!

    I am extremely sensitive and still can't figure out how to stop other peoples energy to lodge into my own. I hope I figure out so I can continue my journey of promoting wellness.
    Micheal commented on 23-Jul-2014 11:45 AM
    I would like to know more about this if you can contact me so me and my girlfriend can fix these problem
    Lee commented on 09-Sep-2014 10:16 PM
    @Lora:

    I feel similarly. I never really thought about the air that way, but all my life I have also been conscious of illness particles in the air. I can sense them and can always tell the moment they enter my body and that I will get sick.

    @ Dr. Judith Orloff:

    Thanks so much for writing this, it is infinitely comforting to hear these confirmations coming from a trained medical professional like yourself. It validates my concerns and is a huge relief! Thank you, thank you.
    Ruth commented on 19-Sep-2014 09:33 PM
    I have experienced some of the symptoms above. I suffer from deep depression, anxiety and for a whole month a few years ago. I didn't leave my house for almost 2 months. I often get chest pains in my heart area. Upset stomach, weakness and nervousness. I swear sometimes I already know what a person is thinking or feeling. I'm very emotional and many things upset me. I often feel like I care more about a person than they so themselves.
    Samantha commented on 25-Nov-2014 12:14 AM
    So good to know there are many people out there who are like me. I always thought I was a crazy girl. I cry for everything. Be it a wedding of a stranger to a baby being born etc... I don't watch violent movies or movies that are sad. It affects me so bad. Can never say no. I'm always the soft one who helps everyone. Animals and kids are drawn to me. When out I feel overwhelmed. When I get home I'm so physically and emotionally drained. Love the jaguar.
    Anonymous commented on 12-Dec-2014 01:10 AM
    wow holy crap that what has been going on with me i have all 8 symtoms people. what can i do????
    Anonymous commented on 12-Dec-2014 01:27 AM
    im drawn to the woods and holy places that are tranquil after dealing with the exhausting day of peoples emotions over running me im drawn to particularly women and people's silent agony it bugs me to no end when people im close to hide it from me. and i often experience all 8 of the symtoms yesterday was the worse ever. i
    Anthony Nunez commented on 02-Jan-2015 09:41 PM
    I would like to discuss this further. Hear from you soon.
    Sissy commented on 13-Jan-2015 10:27 PM
    I know what I am but I am so tired of being this way. I can't be sober even anymore and deal with these crazy "normal" people who can't see past his or her own nose.
    Christina commented on 23-Jan-2015 12:19 PM
    Hello, Dr. Orloff!
    I was excited to find this blog post from you. I've read two of your books ("Positive Energy" and "Second Sight"), which brought me to the realization that I am an empath. I have had chronic pain and migraines since I was a child, was diagnosed with a chronic illness two years ago, and have since been undergoing treatment. But my docs have been stumped on why my recovery is so sluggish. Now I can clearly see that maybe a larger part of the problem for me is that I've been soaking up everyone's pain and emotions for years! I have been studying on how to protect and heal myself as an empath, reading Rosetree, McLaren, etc. But I had to fly yesterday, and today I'm physically a mess. I spoke to a local empathic teacher, and she insisted that I can't heal myself on my own--that I need to get help from a healer. Do you believe that's true? Thanks so much for your great books and work. You are a gift to all of us!!
    Lydia commented on 19-Feb-2015 06:58 PM
    I have been a very depressive person since I was a child, I have always known that I feel others emotions very keenly, but not physicaly thankfully. I just happened to type into google how I feel and found this article. First time I realized there is a name for people like me. I find it is more an issue with the people I love the most. I am constantly hurting for the things that hurt them and it is exhausting to the point of never wanting to leave the house. I have always preferred being at home and even feel "safest" in a closet or under a blanket and I feel like I am a complete weirdo. Thank you for shedding light on this. My friend told me I am a sponge absorbing everyone elses emotions...I have to find a way to control it but that seems impossible
    Shannon commented on 25-Feb-2015 01:43 PM
    OMG!!I can not believe after almost 45 years..i finally have a name put to this. the last straw was today when i had severe knee pain without any reason except for my husband falling and injuring his knee yesterday.Prior to this.I have felt every pain my son has had. He has CP and when he has a surgery, my husband is usually caring for both if us because i am bedridden also. I knew my Mom had passed without being informed. I take on otherels anger. I am always drained. I sleep my weekends away because I have no energy.I know and sense things that others do not. My friends and family are always amazed of the accuracy. I have not been happy in a very long time because I draw a lot of people who wants to befriend me no matter where i am. That's why i prefer being at home and away from the phone. The stories they share are usually sad and down. sigh....I really need help with this because i am exhausted. I literally feel like I am carrying the weight of the world on me.
    Anonymous commented on 21-Mar-2015 11:34 PM
    Great article
    Anonymous commented on 22-Mar-2015 12:27 AM
    Thanks for this article. I recently had an experience. My friend got sick with fever. I was 6 feet away from her bed, but I can feel her fever or energy. I don't feel it in other parts if the room. I am not sure if everyone can do that. The next day, my friend said she is fine. I was standing closer to her. Though the energy or heat is not as strong as yesterday, I still feel it when I held my hand up without touching her. She didn't believe me but 2 hours later, she came back and said I was right. Could this be a valid sign that I am an empath?
    Anonymous commented on 22-Mar-2015 12:32 AM
    Thanks for this article. I recently had an experience. My friend got sick with fever. I was 6 feet away from her bed, but I can feel her fever or energy. I don't feel it in other parts if the room. I am not sure if everyone can do that. The next day, my friend said she is fine. I was standing closer to her. Though the energy or heat is not as strong as yesterday, I still feel it when I held my hand up without touching her. She didn't believe me but 2 hours later, she came back and said I was right. Could this be a valid sign that I am an empath?
    Lucas Aoki commented on 27-Mar-2015 08:54 PM
    after a anxiety issue last year, all the sudden i started to feel others... and i scored 6 in the questions above....
    its like it drains my energy.... i am trying to control it... to make it an ability to scan others, control so it can not harm me and then i can help others.... i received this for a reason.... and we can use it for the good.... its hard...
    i am from brazil - Sao Paulo. Big cities, traffic, crowds... i feel the energy...the feeling.... it drains me! i need alone time every day!!
    Nancy commented on 17-Apr-2015 04:11 PM
    When I was younger I always had pain in my feet and legs whenever anyone around me would get hurt. I'd come home from school and crash from exhaustion. I've been ill forever. They tried to tell me it was depression, though when they talked with me couldn't see any reason I needed to go to a counselor. They finally labeled me with chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia. I've never believed that, so this makes sense. One time when I was making lunch it felt like something sharp hit my back so hard that my knees buckled and I went down. Later I found out my best friend had been hit in the back with the steel part of the school door at the very same time. When giving back rubs I can feel where the pain is, and where it's coming from. Likewise if I cup my right hand and run it above your body I can feel where you hurt. Never really talked to anyone about this though. Just did this for close friends, or my husband at the time. He had a bad knee and I would cup my right hand over his knee and feel it drawing the pain out and through my arm to my other arm and out through my left hand. It helped him sleep better at night.
    Nancy commented on 17-Apr-2015 04:25 PM
    One more note, when I was young I could hear spirits sometimes and feel their presence.(not happily) I've only actually seen 3 fully in my lifetime. But I could walk into a house and tell if someone was murdered or died there. I heard the spirits say "Can you hear me?" or "Help me." A lot of the words were unclear, but they'd catch me sometimes when I was between being awake and being asleep. That's when everything was extremely clear. And some of those spirits were nasty! But I mostly haven't wanted to deal with any of that so I've become a pro at blocking them! It seems so many couldn't forgive themselves for one thing or another and couldn't go to God with their guilt. So I did talk to some of them to let them know it's what God wants. If they can't forgive themselves, then they're hurting God, because He wants them on His team. So by allowing God's forgiveness you are giving Him your trust and going to His side. Anyway that's basically what helped them.
    Christina commented on 08-May-2015 01:52 PM
    I looked over the questions and have answered them to myself honestly. "YES" for all of them. While being an empath is a gift, since I don't know how to switch it on or off, or if that's even possible, my life is miserable. I am so fatigued, exsausted physically and mentally and can hardly keep my eyes open. Even while I'm typing this I feel like im just going to fall asleep. I've gone to a few doctors and had blood work done. Everything comes out normal. This is etremely frustrating. I live with my boyfriend in New Orleans. I moved out here in april 2013. Ever since I've been out here my health and empathetic feeling have been at its worst! My boyfriend suffers from Psoriasis. He gets it from the stress and BS at work. I feel his stress, and now I have the psoriasis around both my eyes and his is gone. I have photos to prove it from yesterday 05/07/15. If anyone would like to see feel free to message me. Christina_Citsay32@yahoo.com
    Gail commented on 06-Jul-2015 01:45 PM
    I know I am an emotional and physical Empath. Today I am sick and very low energy. I am an animals right supporter and activist and last night I witnessed only a few seconds of a video about the Korea and China dog meat trade...Some crazy women was sawing off a dogs legs while he was still alive..mouth bound shut and scalded... Today my leg hurts and it is hard to walk on without some aching or pain. I have zero energy and feel like I have PTSD today sobbing at any moment.. After reading your article I am positive this is what I am. I grew up feeling abandoned and also grew up in an alcoholic, neglectful and abusive home. Since I can remember at a very young age I was also different then other I knew..sensitive to everything around me.I used to give funerals to any animals I seen who died...be it a bird etc...I say a little pray every time I walk anywhere and see a road kill etc...I tell the dead animal in my thoughts that "I won't forget you...you are important to me..even though the world passes you by unnoticed ..you are a someone to me!"
    Jake commented on 21-Jul-2015 01:30 AM
    My question in Google "A person is ill, but someone else have the symptoms" brought me here. Whenever I get physical symptoms (only happens with people close to me) they feel better to the degree that I have or get their symptoms.

    Emotional symptoms can come from anywhere though. I do not get sucked in by it so much anymore because I've learnt to simply not have empathy, but it still makes me tired and work on my nerves. However, as it benefit the people who are close to me, I do not want to get rid of it.

    I consider myself to be an intelligent scientific person and is not willing to accept answers or explanations that I cannot verify. I am not so much interested in the "what", but more the "why" or "how", skipping the psycho babel, dark age spirituality and religious nuts.

    It is a very difficult subject to broach with anyone where the outcome of the discussion resemble any tangible conclusion or benefit and does not end up in a tangle of spiritual or religious phenomena and/or psychological disorders.

    It is good though to read the accounts of others and see the similarities to my own experiences.
    Anonymous commented on 14-Aug-2015 01:25 AM
    I am 16 me and my mother both and physical and emotional empaths. We didn't become aware of this until we read the book "the secret" after I read the secret I researched about being empathic and I've token several test including this one and I am 100% positive I am an empath. School is very difficult for I constantly feel nausea every where I go I get random, panic attacks' I shake constantly and sometime run from all conflicts. One day as I was at school I kept getting random unbearable pains in my stomach and back when I got hokeme that evening my father had told me he was cutting a tree at work n the bottom of the tree pushed him down a hill until he rolled out the way. That day I know I had felt my fathers pain and for two weeks later after that I had random pains. My father also have problems with he's muscles a so of course as do i . I always end up pulling ,muscles or feeling as if I've pulled a muscles when I really haven't... my sister is currently 5 months pregnant and every time she comes over to visit as soon as she pulls in the drive way I get random pains in my stomach and back and my right knee. My sister has knee damage from getting in repeatedly wrecks. About a month ago I had an in easy feeling that something was wrong with one of my family members and within 30 minutes we had gotten a phone call saying ,y two neices had to be picked up that day or they would go to foster care. We imedently drove 3hours away and picked up 2 children and with hardly having no room for the. Being an empath is very hard to cope I need help blocking out negative vibes and other physical and emotional feelings... its hard for me to figure out my own feelings amymore.... one time my ex boyfriend had an awful migraine so I kissed he's head and rubbed it he's migraine gradually went away but as he's went away I then came down with an awful ,headachr . This arrival was very helpful knowing there a lot of other people out other just like me
    Tasha commented on 20-Aug-2015 07:58 AM
    I don't just feel a person; I take it from them. A year before I met my partner she seriously injured her foot. It has yet to heal completely, however, it has improved ten fold since I began working on her. My problem has always been that when I heal a person I take their pains and ailments into myself. It remains a struggle and I have yet to find a way to release this energy once it is mine. For instance, when I work on her foot I awake the next morning and my hands are puffy, swollen and hurt very badly. Also, when I am with someone for a long period of time I begin to smell like them and develop the same body issues ie dry skin, poor vision ect.

    My mother and grandmother both seemed to have mysterious abilities. I believe it to have something to do with our bloodline. My mothers great great grandfather was a Native American Medicine Man. Perhaps healing is just in my blood.

    Does anyone know where I go from here? I want to continue to heal those that I love but I am also quite tired of always being tired and not feeling well.
    Sup yo commented on 12-Sep-2015 01:54 PM
    Whenever i see someone, i automatically know what their feeling, especially if its sadness or depression. Yesterday, i was eating lunch with my friends and i saw a 12 year old boy almost cry. i felt like crying too. if all the emotions being thrown at you are overwhelming, it helps to not make eye contact.
    Kq commented on 26-Oct-2015 05:37 AM
    For over a year I have been strained and unhappy, confused and disorientated.I have been getting twinges of anxiety here and there the entire time. It got so bad a couple of months ago and I suffered severe attacks, a week and a half off had me calm and return feeling better.

    I have recently become aware it is my job, I work with a disabled lad who has learning difficulties, we spend a lot of time together and his behaviours are extremely personal towards me.
    I always believed I must be going through a depressive period, my job is tough and I accepted maybe I had taken on a little too much, the entire time I have worked with him my communication skills have plummeted and have felt myself become socially inept - I again felt that this was just me going through something.

    With extreme difficulty and riddled with anxiety I recently decided to ask for help in desperation and this lad has had to have a lot of interaction to stop the behaviours.... I have now become very agitated, stressed and angry when in his presence, even enough for me to become aggressive in manner and speaking to him in a manner of frustration.

    I am so ashamed yet, know this was not me

    I am convinced the last year of confusion and anxiety etc was him not myself. The clamping down on his inapropriate behaviours has truly expressed his anger for not being able to continue and I am feeling it as if it were my own.


    I have decided to walk away, the last year has frightened me enough to come learn exactly what empathy is and I am very unwell as I sit here writing - I need be away from him for days to note the energy disperse - I am too honest for my own good, am having to say I was unprofessional in my mannerisms yet, how do I explain I have only become this way due to empathy?
    Leslie commented on 30-Oct-2015 11:18 AM
    Scored off the chart ,I have been searching forever to find what's wrong with me I can't even look at childhood photos of me and other people I haven't even meet ,I get sad feelings and pain out of no where I've been told that I take on other people stress yea I do but III do I with people I haven't even meet ,people make a bee- line for me and tell me their life's stories this happens to me no matter where I go ,thanks this helped me just this morning out walking my dog it hit me like a brick maybe I'm picking up other people's energy I thought this is crazy ,:))
    Pam commented on 24-Nov-2015 06:23 AM
    Hello Judith, I'm looking for some immediate help with a typical situation over which I have NO control at this time. A neighbor, a man, who lives in the apartment beneath mine, has an energy field that is causing some very distinct "symptoms" in my body: today, my body is picking up pain on my left side, churning stomach juices, pain in my joints, mucus running down my throat, and a headache that is overwhelming my usually sharp consciousness. He is angry and not very intelligent....bordering on neandro-thol! I've been using the "shield" but with very little success...as well as creating an energy grid of golden light on the floor of my apartment, up the walls etc. Also not working! If we are becoming more psychic/sensitive to the over-lapping energy fields of others, due to a raising of our consciousness and the raising of Earth's energy field, we would need ways to protect ourselves that work. Right? I am a long time meditator, yoga/movement practitioner, have been on the path of "waking up" for almost 40 years. Have also had many "enlightenment" experiences and healings. This situation I'm in is so unusual! That is why I'm asking for your assistance today, Judith.
    Thank you for your attention to this matter. I just don't have time to read my way through a book today for a simple solution. Many blessings, Pam
    A commented on 29-Jan-2016 06:37 AM
    Hey i need help so i never was aware of energy ive been sick for a while ...like with sadnesss tiredness etc my gf moved in with me we have few years livingtogether...it seems shes getting the same illness as me what could it be could i be getting her ill ??what do i do ...can someone help me ..
    Ang commented on 01-Mar-2016 07:15 PM
    Hi Judith! I am 19 years old and I've always know I was a hypersensitive person. About a year ago, I became more attentive to my body and listened thoroughly to the signals. There is 1 thing that I experience and I'm hoping you could tell me more about it. Whenever someone is heartbroken, I feel intense pain in my right fingers. If I watch a movie and the character goes through a heartbreak or if a dear friend of mine is living a heartbreak, I feel the pain in my fingers. I don't know why my fingers do that. I also wonder if it has a greater significance. I have always had a hard time loving someone and have therefore never had a boyfriend. I'm wondering if I feel heartbreaks differently and my body is telling me to never fall in love in order to never feel heartbroken. I hope you have an answer for my questions. Thank you
    Kayla commented on 25-Mar-2016 05:02 PM
    I am a sensitive and a spiritual guide. I also have empathic abilities that i thought was only emotional. I can sense when people are overwhelmed, angry, sad and other emotional feelings. I have also been dealing with illnesses that doctors cant detect i have unexplained pain. I have started to notice that i get symptoms that people i have recently been around have. I have been dealing with this pain for years and doctors cant explain. My best friend recently had hip surgery and prior to that i have problems withvmy legs with pain and not working properly. After leaving her bouse the other day i had the worst pain in my hips and legs was unbareable. Thats when i started to think maybe i am a physical empath?
    LaVita commented on 14-Apr-2016 07:48 PM
    Thank you so much. I can be having a great day, then after being around someone for 10-15 minutes or so feel this deep dropping resonance in my abdomen which eventually leads to a headache. This helps. I Now think it occurs when I am around a worrier or someone who is feeling stressed. Again, thanks!
    oooo commented on 18-Apr-2016 02:57 PM
    as a christian i always ask why i can feel pain of others people that i do not know from other countries for example like today i felt head crush and pain head
    why i can feel others ? i was feeling like im dying..
    and by coincidence i saw on fcb. that a nun died on the ecuador earthquake .
    I searched on news and found a car was crushed under the bridge .. why do i feel there pain
    as I believe in jessus christ . there nothing called open eye or the 3rd eye or the evil eye . can a believer in God describe what is happening to me .
    Sandra commented on 28-Apr-2016 09:53 PM
    Thank for your insight. I feel like a filter straining others' pain most of the time. The pain level in my body, joints, muscles, neck, head is constant. Water is my best friend as well and I can do my best releasing there. Every day is constant boundary challenges and when I stay home and isolate, I become disconnected. My brother and sister are now estranged as they feel I have a mental illness and cannot understand what I'm going through. Any insight or suggestions would be most helpful. Thank you.
    Frodo commented on 10-Jun-2016 11:15 PM
    I get stomach aches during movie scenes in which characters are injured or in obvious pain. Unfortunately, I love the movies and probably can't avoid it.
    Sandy commented on 18-Aug-2016 03:59 PM
    How do I deal with getting the same symptoms as other people. It has happened several times in the past. My newest symptom is I was in contact with a woman that had a big lump under her arm and she later died from cancer. Now I have a lump under my arm and have bouts of dizziness. I also have a cousin that recently died of a brain tumor. Now I'm afraid of developing that.
    veronica commented on 16-Sep-2016 05:05 PM
    I recently found out I am empath or however you want to say it and it sucks I found out by accident while working as a bus driver and getting close to several aides on the bus whom I spent majority of the routes with the kids only last 30 mins or so to their stops and I pick up easier closer to just one person it started with sudden pain traveling down left leg that made it hard for me to walk suddenly my aide then advised she had sciatica same leg same symptoms and pain first day I met her....never that pain again the worst was the woman who had lupus I tell u my hands hurt so badly i was trying to massage them then i looked and she was doing the same thing ane explained her illnesss pain match exact don't want to go on about the woman with the knee replacement, anyway I'm glad i found whats wrong with me but what do i do with this ive also diagnosed to the t medical issues of many ive met and they've came back to thank me
    kari commented on 29-Oct-2016 09:38 PM
    In number 2 of the survival guide, you said move away at least 20 feet. What I struggle with is feeling physical symptoms of people that are in other towns and cities and not when I am talking to them on the phone or even thinking about them. It could be anyone, but most of the time it has been a family member over the last 1-2 years. It's awful! Today for example I was having chest pain and muscle spasms, and it was disrupting my ability to do anything without feeling dizzy and just all around not right. I took a muscle relaxer and put a heating pad on my muscle spaz area. Then laid up as I am supposed to do with my own chronic issues, I ended up falling asleep. I got a call from my mother waking me up (14 hour drive away from me) who tells me how my dad has been suffering all morning from dizziness, chest pain due to his congestive heart failure. My mother mentioned how her back is so tight and in pain that she can't stand or sit after running errands today. Like usual, once I find out the other person or people who actually experienced the symptoms, mine stop all together. I am exhausted, and drained but all discomfort, illness or pain is completely gone. It's only gone when I figure out the source, which means if I just make up and answer or my mom guesses at the cause, I don't feel better. HOW can I either make my experience stop or at least separate my pain/illness from the symptoms of others so that I don't treat the causes that are not actually mine or go to the doctor over and over for nothin?? What is the purpose of this "gift" if I don't know who or where the person is who is actually experiencing the physical origin of my pain/illness?

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