Could You Be An Emotional Vampire? How Do You Know?
Adapted from Dr. Judith Orloff’s New York Times Bestseller, “Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your Life” (Three Rivers Press, 2011)
We’ve all got a smidgeon of vampire in us, especially when we’re stressed. So, cut yourself a break. It’s admirable to admit, “I think I’m emotionally draining people. What can I do?” Can’t be free without such honesty. Then you can change. These are some common indications that you’re becoming a drainer.
- People avoid you or glaze over during a conversation
- You’re self-obsessed
- You’re often negative
- You gossip or bad-mouth people
- You’re critical, controlling
- You’re in an emotional black hole, but won’t get help--this strains relationships and won’t free you
The solution is always to own up to where you’re emotionally stuck and change the related behavior. For instance, one patient in computer graphics kept hammering his wife with a poor-me attitude about how he always got stuck with boring projects at work. Instead of trying to improve the situation, he just kvetched. She started dreading those conversations, diplomatically mentioned it to him. This motivated my patient to address the issue with his supervisor, which got him more stimulating assignments. Similarly, whenever I slip into vampire mode, I try to examine and alter my behavior or else discuss the particulars with a friend or a therapist so I can change. Don’t hesitate to seek assistance when you’re stumped. Also, review the types of emotional vampires in Emotional Freedom (the Narcissist, The Victim, The Controller, The Criticizer, The Splitter) to make sure you’re not one of them.
About Judith Orloff
Judith Orloff MD, an Assistant Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at
UCLA and intuition expert, is author of the New York Times Bestseller Emotional Freedom: Liberate Yourself From Negative Emotions and Transform Your
Life (Three Rivers Press, 2011) Her other bestsellers are Positive Energy,
Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff synthesizes the pearls
of traditional medicine with cutting edge knowledge of intuition and
energy medicine. She passionately believes that the future of medicine
involves integrating all this wisdom to achieve emotional freedom and
total wellness. www.drjudithorloff.com
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